Who will you kiss at midnight?

I hope everyone had a Happy Hanukkah, a Merry Christmas, or cheery whatever you choice may be!

While being at home for the holidays is always relaxing, it is nice to be back in the City. And now comes the time to make New Years plans; an experience that is always stressful. All the usual questions come to mind: to pay for an all inclusive expensive party, or just go to a bar? Bar or apartment? Is it too late to make dinner reservations?? Oh the agony that is New Years. I have many friends that simply revolt and do not go out at all. I, on the other hand, secretly love New Years and the excitement that comes about with wearing something sparkly and hoping for a kiss at midnight.

I am trying to not put too much importance on this New Years' kiss, but I know, I know, 2009 is going to be a great year, so I feel like I should have a great kiss at midnight. Ideally, from a really cute guy who would want to take me to a delicious New Years Day brunch. But I will settle for a fairly attractive guy and a great kiss. Now, I will leave you with what I believe to be one of the best New York New Years kisses ever.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRhCTnkd3vM

Its a wonderful life...unless you're an old maid.

I saw "Its a Wonderful Life" this afternoon at IFC. The New York Times recently made a big stink about how that movie was especially poignant right now in our economic situation (I think they used the description "its a Pitiful Life" - very uplifting). Anyways, although there is a dark side of George Bailey's life in that his hopes and dreams of traveling the world are squashed by having to stick it to the Man, the last scene in the movie gets me every time; "Remember, no man is a failure who has friends."

I did happen to notice in today's showing something about the film I never picked up on before. When George is granted the ability to see what life would have been like if he had never been born, he frets over how different things are and wants to see Mary, his wife. His guardian angel, Clarence, says ok, "But you won't like it, she works at the library and is an old maid!!!" We soon see Mary, who in "real life" is beautiful, but now has been turned into a smart, but sad looking librarian. Wow. My cynical self thought, come on Frank Capra, give us single ladies a break here. But then my romantic side had the thought, is there just one person out there for all of us? What if something happens to my person? Will I end up an old maid librarian?? If I do, at least I hope I will have a nice little cap like Mary. And no cats.


here is the wonderful last scene...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k_Vsmqf6X8&feature=related

L'Homme Fatal

http://jezebel.com/5112428/field-guide-to-guys-lhomme-fatal?skyline=true&s=x


I have been duped (and dumped) by L'Homme Fatal numerous times. My problem is I live by the credo that guys are simple creatures and only want one thing. And these Hommes Fatales always send my guy radar into haywire. They are very smart and funny (and many times wearing glasses, damn them). They do not send booty call text messages at 11 pm on a Wednesday evening, but instead would send a clever email or facebook message. By attempting to "get to know you better" through creative dates (like Scrabble or tea, as this author describes) they trick you into thinking they are actually different from that jerk frat star who you don't remember making out with in college after you drank too much PJ punch.

Its the asshole in sensitive, artsy, "different from those other guys," clothing that makes preparing yourself for heartbreak from a HF impossible. These guys always use the same excuse: its not you, its me; we are just in different places right now; I'm just focusing on so many different things right now, blah blah blah.... Actually, you are lucky to get a response from an HF at all. In my experience they are immature and are scared you will assume a long term relationship if they so much as get your number. (Note: because of this, sending sketchy facebook messages to an HF including the phrase "remember that time we made out?" is not suggested).

With all this said, it is impossible not to enjoy flirting with these HFs. And life is short. Sometimes always making smart decisions is just flat out boring. So if you see a cute, but possible HF, underneath the mistletoe at your next holiday party, don't immediately run the other way. But just don't say I didn't warn you...

The Art of Meeting Men

This video is amazing. I would say it is circa 1987 judging from the shoulder pads. Maybe in 1987 the best way to meet men was "reading a sports magazine" or "wearing a flashy piece of jewelery." I don't know. All I know for sure is, that poofy hair is hot.

The Art of Meeting Men

No judgement

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/14/fashion/14love.html?pagewanted=1&sq=modern%20love&st=cse&scp=2

Mr. Moms. I'm telling you, I could never handle it. Now that does not mean I judge people who have this type of, possibly, wonderful relationship. I just know it would never work for me. I'm not sure if I ever want to get married, but I know that I do want a relationship in which both of us share the financial responsibilities. But like I said, no judgement... Ok, lets be real. I judge as a hobby.

Dating is Dead

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/13/opinion/13blow.html?em

Charles M. Blow says that while hooking up can be satisfying for awhile, women finally come to realize that it is not a great way to go about looking for a spouse. As my friend's mother used to say, why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?

I am dismayed by Mr. Blow's attitude that dating is dead. Yes, perhaps men only ask women out for one reason in the end: to hook up. But dating still exists. Even though I easily become cynical and many times visualize myself sitting at home eating Plump Dumpling takeout for all eternity and realizing breaking up with my ex to 'meet new people' may not have been a good idea, I still try to keep the faith! So, Mr. Blow, please steer away from this negativity and your focus on lack of self-confidence in girls. The dating world is hard enough.

My picks: Best of Craigslist missed connections

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Yikes

Hugs

And one of my favorites, a back and forth exchange between w4m and m4m both 26 beginning with:

Question - w4m - 26

Would you please explain to me what is going on between us?

Re: Question
I don't even know where to start.

re: re:

Start anywhere.

re: re: re:
I think about you constantly but one of us isn't single.

And now, the best, a random stranger:
Re: Question
1) What's the nearest park to your job?
2) Do you both live in the same borough?
3) Why not try anyway?

Here, Here!